Wife impractically insists she and her husband turn their home office into her craft room, banishing his work desk to the corner of their bedroom: 'I immediately said no'

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Oct 3, 2025 7:00 AM EDT

Not everything can go your way in marriage, and that's probably for the best. Our partners put us in check when we get tunnel vision, and they let us know when what we're demanding is impractical, and, well, selfish.

This isn't to say that sometimes, our partners don't act in their best interest in order to get the outcome they want in any given situation, but being self-aware is key to a healthy, balanced partnership.

For example, the wife in this next story asks her husband if they can turn their joint office room into her craft room. Both the husband and the wife are remote employees, so having a designated workspace is important to their output and general well-being. The wife's implication that her husband can be banished to the bedroom for work and she can park on their living room couch is inherently selfish. Aside from selfish, it's also impractical. Everyone is inconvenienced because she wants a designated art space. Unfortunately, and like many commenters have also pointed out, work takes priority over hobbies in this case.

Now, the wife is acting cold toward her husband for shutting down her craft room dream, but he feels justified. What do you think?

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  • "I think I'm just being realistic about the needs of two people who work from home."
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  • "AITA for telling my wife she can't turn our home office into a craft room?"

    My wife, Kiri, and I both work from home. We have a three-bedroom house: our bedroom, a guest room, and a
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  • dedicated office. The office has two desks, one for her, one for me and all our work gear. It's functional and we've made it work for three years. Messages
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  • Last week, Kiri sat me down and proposed we convert the office into a dedicated craft room for her.
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  • She's really gotten into making resin art and jewelry, and her supplies are taking over a corner of the living room. She said
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  • the guest room desk is too small, and she needs a permanent, organized space to spread out.
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  • I was confused. "Okay," I said, "but where would I work? And where would you work?" She
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  • explained her plan, I could move my desk into the corner of our bedroom, and she would work from
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  • the living room couch or the kitchen table with her laptop.This is where I might be the a hole. I
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  • immediately said no. Not a "let's talk about it," but a flat "No, that's not going to work for me."
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  • I told her that my job requires focus. I'm on a lot of video calls and need a quiet, private space.
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  • The bedroom is for sleeping, not for stressfully ending a workday. I also pointed out that her
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  • "solution" has her working from the couch, which is bad for her posture, and it doesn't solve the
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  • problem of where her computer and dual monitors would permanently live.
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  • She got quiet and said, "You're not even considering it. You're just shutting me down."
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  • unhappy wife trying to reason with her husband on the couch but he is unreceptive
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  • I felt bad, but I also felt my reasons were practical, not personal. I
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  • suggested we look at better storage for the living room, or even thin, tall cabinets for the guest room to give
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  • her a craft station there. But she's stuck on the idea of the office, saying it's the only room with
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  • the "right feel.". Now there's a bit of a chill between us. She thinks I'm being selfish and not supporting her
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  • hobby. I think I'm just being realistic about the needs of two people who work from home.
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  • So, AITA for putting my foot down about the home office?
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  • I_Like_To_Count Tell her you did consider it. Litterally you considered what the outcomes would be for both you and her. She is the one not considering how this would affect you. Sometimes consideration is not a long process.
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  • GothicOtaku25 OP as someone who makes stuff out of resin as a hobby, you HAVE to have a room with proper ventilation, and either put down mats or something to cover the floor so resin doesn't get on anything, not to mention not being able to get it on your skin and she should be wearing a mask while dealing with resin if she doesn't do this already. Maybe she can use the garage? It might not be ideal depending on the heat where you live but the space might be better? Also NTA. It's a selfish req
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  • CountRex Work comes before hobbies. Nothing else needs to be said.
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